Here they are....
1) After hours, days, weeks, months of thinking and researching - soul searching and lamenting over where we were and where we are now .... we have decided to officially make some changes with our agency. No longer are we on the "infant" request. We are now open to adopt a toddler/child age 1-4.
2) We have had to make an official ending date to the madness. A date that has to be put out there to establish a mutual ground so that the potential blame and/or guilt is never felt toward the one that might have said "I'm done". Come December 31st, together we are pulling the plug.
I am at peace with this. Scared silly on many levels, but at peace.
4 comments:
Sounds like a great plan. And I bet it feels awesome to have made a decision!
Your customized adoption freaky scale will be forthcoming! :)
Congrats on your decisions! I hope they bring you a bit of peace - and assume they just might. And kudos to you for listening to, and following your instincts on this!
I think this is a great idea! There is something so stressful about feeling like you have no control. This gives you control. And truth is, if December 31 comes and you both feel that perhaps a little more time on the older child list is needed, it is not difficult to adjust that date & it still leaves you in control to change your mind without guilt.
Yay! It is a wonderful plan. Samuel is such an awesome kid and we wouldn't have him if we kept our original request of an infant GIRL 0-24 months. Hah!
And our friends who just adopted a an infant child from Ethiopia are having some major issues with her attachment.
Samuel just got back from the psychologist ( we wanted to make sure we were missing anything) who declared him as the most attached adopted child for not being home a year he has ever seen. Not to say there is no trauma. That is inevitable with adoption.
But...it just shows it is completely individualized and not really about age!
I'm so happy for you guys!
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